" Love like a rainbow - full of colours, bursting with diversities. "

Falling in Love was never easy on the heart, mind and soul. Sure enough. The first few times would be all so heart-fluttering and mind-boggling. Oh how you longed for that cute/handsome guy you have been eying on for ever so long. You try to make yourself seem visible in his eyes - striking up conversations or just being plain random. Congratulations! The guy took notice of you! What next? You start to want to get closer to him - introductions, comments on the weather and suddenly bam! Can I have your handphone number? He gives it to you and you feel like your world is spinning so fast, you have no idea how to go along with it. Then you start simple by texting him about the most random things you can think of that happened in school - like you got called out by your teacher and he just embarrassed you in class. Or perhaps the Lunch Lady gave you extra servings today; oh what joy! Slowly, and gradually, texting became a habit and you guys started texting each other 24/7. That is when you guys start sharing secrets with one another - first crushes, most hatred rival etc. Sooner or later, you find yourself having a close bond to him. No longer just a simple puppy love towards him, you feel something more intense like how you always seem to anticipate his text or just to see him in face. That's where either one of them makes the kill and ask the other party "Will you be my girl/boyfriend?" The other party agrees! And you are done with the first level of having a relationship!

The second level - starts off rather romantic. You guys go on special dates with each other, taking lots of pictures and special memories. You guys hold hands and hug, of course proceeding with kisses and making out. Dates become a more frequent thing and you feel like you can not let go of the other party. Sooner or later, it has become a habit to go out with him every now or then or else you feel like he doesn't like you anymore. The second level consists of more of the two parties getting to know more about each other - family, close friends, hobbies, passions in life etc. And naturally, whenever you disclose something private about your life, insecurities starts to manifest inside of you. What if he doesn't like my family? What if he thinks that my friends are lame? And the list goes on. Or whenever you go out on a date, you are scared that you might not dress well enough to impress him and his group of friends. You worry about all the slightest details ever. Until he assures you that he loves you for who you are, and not someone that you have to pretend to be. If you have passed this stage, congratulations! Your relationship has leveled to the next stage!

The third level; more intimacy and passion. From here onwards, you feel that making out is definitely a must. A kiss and a hug would not suffice anymore and you start to feel hot for the other party. Trust me, this is really inevitable for any relationship and it is up to them to decide which is the boundary line for them, as losing one's virginity is as easy as breathing. Normally around this stage, either party would be under peer pressure to do whats more popular among teens rather than set their own "no-nos". And once they have had sex with one another, they will most probably be hooked onto it and find it hard to stop! I've had friends who were like that and it takes a lot of courage to forgo such a dangerous habit. Not to mention the lost of their dignity if they succumb to such temptations. Therefore, it is a really dangerous stage for most teens if they do not how to say a firm 'NO', and to those who managed to keep their virginity and their girl/boyfriends, it means that your boy/girlfriend really do love you and is willing to wait till marriage for that sacred copulation! :)

With that, the fourth level is on its way. This is the level of understanding each other and loving each other for not being perfect. For some couples, this might happen before the 3rd level, but I'm speaking from a wider perspective. This is when you will start seeing all his/her bad habits and flaws in their personalities etc. Like you will start getting irritated at how she is always late, or how he is always farting/burping in public. And you find that arguing with each other is becoming more inevitable these few days - and these fights are really intense till the point that no one is stepping out to admit his/her wrong. In such times, this calls for the more matured side to step up and break that cold silence, because if not, both parties may as well be heading towards another Cold War. (Thank goodness I have my baby for being so matured and understanding as he is always the one who steps up and tries to clear the situation.) Just settle down and let your anger simmer down before facing each other and explaining your side of the story. With a clear mind, and unbiased judgment, the argument will be cleared quicker! :D

In my opinion, the fifth stage is the hardest to achieve; which calls for total understanding of one another’s lifestyles, habits and character that you strive to accept his/her flaws and proceed to change one’s own flaws. Or perhaps when the other party did something wrong, instead of breaking out in a fight, they would sit down together and share with each other what they did not like of each other, and that they would do their utmost best to change. So far, the only married couple whom I know that has reached beyond this fifth stage would be my grandparents. They hardly fight with each other, (actually I’ve never seen them fight before and they have lived with me for like 12years.) and they understand each other completely that they are able to read each other’s minds! And despite them being so old, they still go out on dates with each other, watching their favourite shows together, and they would hold hands while walking. My grandmother knows that my grandfather is rather weak in the body, so she takes care of him 24/7 till the extent that she helps prepare the food that he has to eat. Even his medication and visitations to the hospital are all taken care of by my grandmother. And she has never once complained or scolded my grandfather. That is true love indeed. My grandfather loves my grandmother a lot and I think the way they met each other is very fairy-tale like. My grandfather was a dancer and my grandmother was a student there. They met each other through dancing and they fell in love. However, my grandmother’s sisters always teased and bullied her and even called her ugly because she didn’t like putting on makeup. When they got married, it seemed pretty bad because my grandfather had not become a Christian yet and he would get drunk and sometimes things got rather ugly. But my grandmother still loved him. And now the both of them are devote Christians and they still love each other ever so much. They are really true role models for each and every one of us! :D And I love them with all my heart too.

So to my dearest Baby, I’m so sorry for always arguing with you these few days and I know that I’m not perfect and I always seem to give you a lot of headaches. I hope you can forgive me and I promise I will change my bad habits. I love you!

Loving Cheerleading and Baby With No Boundaries {♥}